Hey Folks, thought I would pop on by here just to say hi and update you on a few things prior to the start of the second season of the show we all love so much. After a work shakeup that had me working every day, I was able to finally get a day to write a few words on a subject that has been bothering me lately.

Over the Christmas holiday, I was able to get on to my twitter and face book accounts and actually see what was going on. Boy was I surprised. #Withoutlander has really made some of you nuts. I get that, I’m going through a bit of withdrawal too. But there are those of you who are becoming a little over the line in the obsessive nature of your fandom.

First, I’m a fan of the show, but I’m a bigger fan of the books. They will always be my first love. Is Sam Heughan the way I pictured Jamie? Not really, but he’ll do. Was Caitriona who I pictured as Claire? Not really, but she’ll do. Over the course of sixteen episodes, I found myself falling in love with them, their chemistry together, their acting ability, and the way they dealt personably with fans. Hell, a lot of the success I had with this blog is because of Sam Heughan, and I will be forever grateful for that.

But as a fan, I know there are boundaries in what I can and cannot say in social media. As an actor myself, on stage and the small screen, I have had some small indication of what actors go through on a daily basis when interacting with other folks. For the most part, these interactions are nice, brief affairs with only a few kind words. I have never had the instances of behavior I have seen sent toward Caitriona, Sam, and the rest of the crew.

In the beginning, we had all kinds of negativity thrown at Caitriona for her looks. To which I say, “Are you the most beautiful human being on the planet? No? Then shut up!” Guess what: She is laughing all the way to the bank riding on a cushion of supermodel money, while you’re on a computer slinging stones. I think she’s doing okay, thankyouverymuch.

We heard the same with Sam, how he didn’t look like the Jamie we all know and love from the books. And where is he? Climbing rocks and living the life with blond actresses like a young man about town. And he deserves it. He has worked very hard for his success. He helps children realize their dreams all over the world through his charities. How about you? Give to the salvation army this Christmas? No, I don’t think so. Again, stop casting stones.

Oh, and to the ones that say, “You should change your public behavior. If I was your mother, I would be ashamed of seeing you frolicking with bikini blondes in pools.” Guess, what, Mrs. Twitter queen. YOU. DON’T. GET. TO. TELL. SAM. WHAT. TO. DO. PERIOD. He is a personal man and he wants it to stay personal. He doesn’t have to take orders from you. Trust me, when I was his age, I was single and living the life too. Admittedly not as exciting as Mr. Heughan, but fun nonetheless. You are not his mother, girlfriend, lover, or confidant. Wht he does in his personal life is what he does, not you.

Oh, and to all you twitter queens that wake up in the morning and tweet things like, “Good morning @SamHeughan” please just stop. He doesn’t respond to that. Really, he doesn’t. I would venture to guess it’s more of a bother to him than anything else. All you’re doing is fishing for a response from your imaginary boyfriend so later you can post pictures all over your site as to how the great Jamie Fraser acknowledged you in your piece of the universe. Guess what, he has over 700K followers, and while he appreciates every one of us, he has little time to engage in frivolities with each and every one. He has a social media manager now, anyway, so odds are, you’re not going to get anywhere close to the top of his feed.

Caitriona is already off of twitter except for a few instances here and there, probably becaue she got so irritated with the next group of people I’m going to talk about. You Shippers.

Shippers: The fans who desperately want the leading actor and actress to have a relationship in real life.
Yes, you folks that want the actress and actor of a romance to be in lurve off camera. Stop that. Please. Caitriona and Sam are friends. That’s it. They act together on a hit TV show. That’s it. The actors all have significant others. That’s it. They respect each other as professionals. That’s it.  They are not, will they ever be in a real life relationship. they will never get married, and they will never have miracle Outlander babies that look like Bree. Please, stop trying to make this happen!

Every time I see something about this actor and actress are in a certain area together and they aren’t filming, you’ll see, “Squee, they’re dating! See? We were right!” No you’re wrong. No they aren’t dating, they’re probably on a publicity junket for a new market. This kind of behavior makes other outlander fans do this…

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It’s also an invasion of privacy. Don’t you folks have more important things to do than scour the internet for the latest gossip about your favorite two people in the whole world? Like jobs, for instance, or kids, or your significant other? Take a break, read a book that isn’t outlander. I’ve done that. I’ve stayed away from twitter and social media because it’s just too much work keeping up with the stupid that goes on there. And when I do check up, from time to time I find something that makes me sigh.

So please, all of you who are doing this, respect the boundaries of the actors. I know you’re a fan, but don’t be like Annie Wilkes, please. The last thing Sam and Cait need are over obsessive fans ruining their lives by needless intrusion. Watch the show, and leave them alone. Everyone will be happier as a result.

Thank you.

Also, I know some of you might be fuming right now, and I respect that. I wouldn’t have said anything if I didn’t think I could take the heat. I thank all of you for your kind words, and I will also respect any negativity that comes as a result of this missive. So go ahead, as the black knight in Monty Python says, “Do your worst!”

239 responses to “Dear Obsessed Fan– STOP IT ALREADY!”

  1. So true! Thank you for putting my thoughts into words!!

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  2. Thank you so much for saying that..and it needed to be said. I think some folks just don’t have enough to do! I am a fan also, but really!!!!

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  3. I agree. We are not teenagers.

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  4. Bernadette Craig Avatar
    Bernadette Craig

    Thank you for taking the time to write this, I certainly agree with everything you write, just didn’t take the initiative to vent. Well done! Oh, and read a book, other than Outlander?! Surely you jest. There are people out there who actually say there aren’t any other well written books out there! Pretty. Scary. Again, thank you!

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  5. Oh, POO!! You mean I have to get my own life???? You are asking waaaay to much! I don’t know who Annie Wilkes is (I guess that shows my low level of obsession) but I wish them all much continued success for the enjoyment I have received from their efforts. Now, I have to get back to my own life where I have my own boring, personal things to attend to!

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  6. michele preston Avatar

    Thank you for putting into writing what I have been thinking. Enough of the “Sam responded to my tweet….Squee.” Grow up for the love of Pete.

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  7. Well said! Thank you.

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  8. Very well said! Thank you.

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    Christine Hallett

    A very good article that really makes you stop and think.
    I’m a little bit guilty myself. I love the books, love the show, love the cast,
    but you are completely correct when you say they are entitled to their lives and their privacy. It must be such a shock ad an actor to get a part that you live doing, it is their career and then to be hit with a tidal wave of fans wanting a little bit of you. Whilst it may be flattering for a week it would you crazy. I will be much more thoughtful as a fan in future.
    Thank you for bringing this up

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  10. Well, add me to your “New group of fans” lol. Many good points and written in a clear decisive way. I applaud you. I, also, have been in situations where I could over indulge in craziness over shows and actors or sit back and enjoy the journey. I have found it much better to just go on the journey with everyone. Thank you for your words.

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  11. You are so right, but fans don’t see it the way you do. To you they are Sam & Cait , to fans they are Jamie & Claire…..hopefully the majority of fans will admire them as actors and let them live their lives not for us to live them vicariously through the show.

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  12. Couldn’t have said it better myself. Well done!

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  13. What is this about Catriona’s looks? I’m a guy, I’ve never read the books so I have no preconceived notions about how Claire is “supposed” to look, and I think Catriona is incredibly gorgeous and amazing in the role. Any woman criticizing her looks must be jealous.

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  14. This should be on all of the different fan pages. I have to say I belong to a few and I haven’t seen much of this on those pages. Of course all of them will remark “Look at how they look at each other, they should be together in real life”. But it has only gone that far, I’m happy to say. I’m also glad I don’t belong to any pages that have fans who act out like that. It’s sad that someone has nothing in their life, so they live thru a stranger playing a role.

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  15. Well, my reply was too long to post so you can read it here if you like. I post all replies that are respectful.Thanks. http://parcaschosen.blogspot.ca/2016/01/a-response-to-terrainmonkey-on-hisher.html

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    1. DSF, your reply was total Palinesque. In other words, word salad.

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    2. Your reply is not warranted or important enough to read. I’m sure, as everything else I’ve seen by you it is filled with self righteous indignation and narcissistic rage. You are just another voice in a sea of voices, except you insert yourself everywhere. This is disrespectful, but notice your hypocritical disclaimer? Go do your thing, and others will do their thing. Your input in not needed.

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    3. I think I’ll pass on your bullshit. Thanks. Though its interesting that your narcissistic bitch is in full rage. How many times do you have to invoke your attention seeking whorish ways before you get the fact that for every one of your supporters there’s probably 10 who hate your guts! Take a hint!

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    4. Nobody cares what you had to say Denise and nobody wants to give you a click on your blog so that you can have another hit.

      JP has been well-known and liked in the fan community for some time now and we don’t need your opinion on him. We have our own.

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    5. Well Denise, since I feel you’re a self righteous, hypocritical narcissist; your opinion about the Outlander books, television show, DG, Ron Moore, and the cast means absolutely nothing to me. It is drivel and I will not give your blog the attention you so desperately crave.

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    6. I find your entire blog immature and inflammatory. This gentleman did not attack you or anyone else personally. He merely gave his opinion. Do you have to agree with his opinion or what he had to say? No, of course not. However, attacking him personally by calling him names and calling into question his gender and masculinity is both churlish and crass, which paints neither you nor the Outlander fandom in a positive light. In the future, might I suggest that you either respond respectfully without a personal attack or refrain from responding altogether? As most of our mothers taught us, “If you can’t say anything nice (or at least respectfully), don’t say anything at all.” After all, that’s what I chose to do after my interaction with you seveal months ago. Should I have chosen to publish screenshots of our entire conversation, it would have painted you in a very poor light. Was I shocked and upset at the way I had been treated? Absolutely. Nonetheless, I chose not to tarnish the fandom or my own reputation by resorting to online bullying. So, I’m asking you, please, stop the personally attacking people online, for the sake of the Outlander fandom and for your own reputation. Thank you.

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    7. Oooookay….lame. Did you tweet that blog link to every member of the Outlander cast and crew, as well as to Diana, Denise, like you do with your tasteless and crass cartoons?

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    8. Wow. You truly are a bitter woman. I’ve never seen such a journey of self-destruction among a fandom and outright vitriol. There will always be people who do not get along with, and you need to figure out to rise above it. Sad that you can’t figure this out.

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    9. Well all this is fun and good but ive read his posts for a while now and that”s just his point of view and sense of humor, also if there is some reason you harp on things people say and do then why do you have a blog? Why not shout it from the rooftops? You are one of a thousand voices hidden behind a metal and plastic screen wanting your voice to be heard even though no sound is emitted. People don’t understand that the internet is not a place for long winded hate speeches and people bullying others. It’s a place where people can share ideas or ideals about things that interest them. So if you are offended by the person’s post then don’t read it. it’s as simple as that.

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    10. I’ll pass, Cape Ruby. I also advise everyone else to, when I see a link to one of your vitriol filled blogs show up in my group.

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    11. Blech. Who would want to read the crap YOU spew? No thanks.

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    12. Hmm ..well news flash Denise. JP is a man. Not only is he a man but one Sam Heughan follows and reads. Might want to do a wee bit of research before you trash talk

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  16. There goes Denise, piggybacking on someone else’s idea because she hasn’t an original bone in her body…and let’s not even start on the hypocrisy of banning everyone who doesn’t suck up to her on her little fb group.
    Looks like JP struck a nerve!

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  17. Very, very, VERY well said! Fandoms are great, but there are boundaries. Boundaries, boundaries, boundaries. Thanks for your thoughtful and intelligent post. It’s quite refreshing given what I’ve experienced in other forums. I look forward to following your blog. Definitely a breath of fresh air!

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  18. Loved this. You took the words right out of my mouth. I’ve been saying so much of this for months. Thank you!! 😃

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  19. Hmm…. JP who is liked and welcomed in every group is being attacked by Fries who is loathed throughout the fandom and who is barred from 80% of the OL groups on Facebook. How does that jealousy taste Denise?

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  20. So as i mentioned to Denise. JP is a man. someone SamHeughan follows. Oh and yes, Sam reads his blogs. Do some research before spewing hate. Just sayin

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  21. Hey DENISE SERVES FRIES! – You are batshit insane, a bully and a malignant narcissist. You have lost all credibility in the Outlander fandom. Please seek psychological treatment immediately, you talentless hack. I urge everyone to go carb-free and HOLD THE FRIES!

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